Hello, my name is Lindsay and I have anxiety.
Socially speaking, it is probably the worst. However, I try to be better about it and that is what counts.
I went to a party a few days ago and I have to admit – my sole motivator was seeing the dog. I have two dogs at home.
So, really I do not need to leave the house to pet dogs but I need a motivator to propel me into social situations and the idea of hanging out with a dog is generally enough to get me to leave the comfort of my bed fort. Cats and kids are also good motivators. Food is not because then I eat my feelings.
That’s the thing I’ve learned about combatting anxiety is I have to make myself uncomfortable so it gets less hard time. I can’t say that some things (parties) ever get super easy but sometimes I end up enjoying myself.
As such, here is a list of ways I try to make myself go do things
1. Set a time limit
2. Have an exit plan
3. Reward yourself
4. Pet the dog
5. Make it a game
I can’t add a wingman to the list because although comforting it becomes a crutch I use and then I feel like a lost puppy. I still haven’t quite figured out how to deal with that, actually.
Usually if I’m feeling extra twitchy I last about an hour then I try and disappear. I’ve found by disappearing you are less likely to get hounded by well meaning nice people on your way out.
(On my society6 shop – Organized Dysfunction)
You know what else makes me twitchy?
Having to get gas for the car. Only overseas though because in all there countries I’ve lived they pump for you so then you have to talk to them in a different language. So I spend alot of my time with gas light on. You’d think that would be the thing to give me anxiety.